The Gym: A Love–Hate Relationship

Post Gym Glow!!

Let’s be honest: the gym and I don’t always get along.

Some days, I walk in feeling motivated, determined, ready to take on the world. I leave buzzing, proud of myself, and so glad I showed up. Other days, just getting there feels like climbing a mountain. The machines look intimidating, the mirrors feel unkind, and every excuse under the sun tells me I’d be better off at home with a cuppa.

Sound familiar?

The truth is, many of us have a love–hate relationship with the gym. It’s not always easy to show up, especially when you’re tired, busy, or doubting yourself. But here’s what I’ve learned: the magic often happens in the moments we don’t want to go, but we go anyway.

It’s not about punishing your body or chasing perfection. It’s about showing up for yourself. Moving because you can. Building strength not just in your muscles, but in your mindset too.

The gym isn’t the only place to do that, of course. A walk in nature, a dance around the kitchen, yoga on the living room floor — they all count. But there’s something about pushing through the gym doors, facing the discomfort, and realising you’re capable of more than you thought, that rewrites the way you see yourself.

So yes, I’ll keep moaning about it sometimes. I’ll keep dreading the treadmill on a rainy Monday morning. But I’ll also keep going. Because every time I do, I prove to myself that I am stronger, braver, and more committed to this life I’m building than the little voice that says “don’t bother.”

And that, for me, is worth the love–hate.

Helen 💛

What about you? Do you love it, hate it, or fall somewhere in between?

Wild Swimming..

Cotter Falls - The Yorkshire Dales

Last weekend, I did something I never thought I’d do. I went wild swimming.

The water was cold, sharp against my skin, and for a split second I questioned whether I’d made a huge mistake. But then something happened. As I pushed past the initial shock, my breath steadied, and I felt this incredible surge of energy — as if my whole body had woken up.

I can only describe it as elation. Pure, natural joy. The kind that takes you by surprise and makes you laugh out loud in the middle of a lake.

When I climbed out, dripping wet and grinning, I felt so proud of myself. Not because I swam fast or far, but because I did it. I stepped out of my comfort zone, faced the fear, and discovered something new about myself.

And the truth is — I’m hooked. I can’t wait to go again. Although if I am honest it would need to be a warm sunny day!!

Wild swimming has reminded me that sometimes the best moments in life are the ones where we dare to try. They might feel uncomfortable at first, but on the other side is a sense of freedom, resilience, and connection that nothing else can quite match.

Maybe for you it’s not swimming — maybe it’s a new hobby, a long-forgotten passion, or simply saying yes to something you’d normally shy away from. Whatever it is, I promise: the pride you’ll feel is worth it.

So here’s to new experiences, cold water, and the joy of surprising ourselves.

All my love Helen xx

Holidays - Post weight loss!

I have just come back from a week in Italy. It was a week of heat (30 degrees), walking and city tours. We started off in Venice, then went to Milan, then on to Lake Como and finally to Rome. There were 8 of us and we got around using trains, water buses, taxis and hop on/ hop off buses.

I expected heat and lots of walking but was unprepared for how this holiday would really be. It was intense but there is no doubt that being nearly 8 stone lighter made this holiday better than any holiday I have been on.

I will be honest and say holidays have not always been fun for me. Being overweight tends to over shadow things - I would always worry about being too ‘big’ on the plane, stress about walking around and getting tired too easily, Worry about the clothes I was wearing and feel frustrated that I hadn't lost the weight I needed to before said holiday.

I lost count of how many crash diets I went on before the holidays even started, how disappointed I was every time at failing to lose the weight I needed to lose - then the holiday would be an all or nothing affair, where I completely lost control of my eating and used it as an excuse to eat even more to smother the discomfort I was in. I came back heavier, more unhappy with my body and the cycle of dieting would start again.

When you do this over and over, a little piece of you gets damaged every time.

We booked this holiday soon after my sleeve operation. I hadn't lost any weight at this point and didnt think much about a ‘goal’ weight that I would hit. I just knew I wanted to be thinner. I remember thinking - if I’ve lost a couple of stones then that will be good.

Boarding the plane at 13stone, opposed to 20 stone was unreal. I sat in the seat and had room. I wasn’t worried when a lady I didnt know sat next to me -there was plenty of room for us both and my thigh didnt touch hers. I was a little bit tearful, and not because I am terrified of flying. :) I was so damned proud of myself. It was like a whole new world and life had just begun.

Arriving in the heat was wonderful. I love the hot weather. I was born for hot weather and it finally felt like it was meant to…. No more super sweaty Helen - just a calm, pleasantly glistening Helen, enjoying the sun. Although the humidity was still a killer!!

We walked until my feet hurt but thats the only bit of me that hurt. My hips held out, my knees carried me fine and there was no part of me that felt slow or like I was holding the family up. In fact I was in front most of the time - leading the charge around the beauty of Italy - taking in the sights. Yes I wore anti chafe shorts with my dress - but come on, a thigh gap isnt for everyone!!

Eating out was a challenge, Protein was my priority and in the land of Pizza and Pasta this was a little more tricky - and a tad more expensive than I had bargained on. I managed but I had a lot of the same meals on repeat. I got so sick of eating out too - something I never thought I would feel! I stayed away from sweet things but had promised myself a little gelato. I tried some - it was fine… that was all it was. I wont miss it now I am home. Oh how things have changed!!

I haven’t got back on the scales since being home. I dont need to. I feel good about the choices I made, the fact I walked over 20K steps every day and that I stayed true to myself and this lifestyle I have chosen.

The one that puts me first, puts my health first and lets me truly enjoy life like never before. Holidays feel sweeter now - sweeter than any gelato and thats something I want again - and again.

All the little bits of broken me - the bits that were damaged during years of yo- yo dieting and not putting myself first are slowly healing. Piece by piece, little by little.

To those who are still battling - keep going. Keep trying, dont ever stop because one day you will get there, realising just like I did on that plan that life is just beginning again.

Helen xx

It’s been a hot minute!

When I look back and see that I haven’t written a blog post since March, I can hardly believe it! Where is this year going. It’s July already and time is marching on.

So how is your year going? Are you where you want to be? I think having a mid year check in is so good for the soul. It helps us realign to our goals and move towards what ever intentions we set earlier on in the year.

For me building the business has become a key focus. I handed my notice in for my paid job in May and left in June - it was certainly a scary move but the right one. I am now able to focus on delivering a first class coaching business for those who need that support.

I have written a 7 day wellness reset course - that is in the free resources section of the website and is available now. To get access to the page all you need to do is email or contact me for the password!

My goals are constantly being evaluated and worked on. This is the way to ensure we are getting to where we need to be and all part of the coaching process. I make it as fun as I can but there is no denying sometimes it is hard work and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is sometimes the only way to grow.

I recently was working in a hotel lobby - I like the change of scene and feel more productive out of the house where kids and dogs can distract me very easily! It pushes me out of my comfort zone as it’s easier to work at home in my PJ’s. I was sat at my little desk tapping away when the lady next to me made a comment about losing her work. We started chatting and she was just the loveliest person. She gave me information for some networking events and we chatted for a good 20 minutes before we both settled down to working again. If I had stayed home that day I would never have met her and the opportunity for growth and networking wouldn’t have happened.

Sometimes we feel a little lost or like what we are doing isn’t getting us to where we want to be fast enough. I certainly know that feeling and understand it can feel uncomfortable. Trust the process. Trust in yourself. Trust that you can change anything at anytime. You are not stuck - you are re-designing. That doesn’t happen overnight.

Reach out as always - Im here…

Helen x

Understanding Peri-Menopause

Understanding Peri-Menopause: A Guide to Navigating This Life Stage

Peri-menopause is a significant transitional phase in a woman’s life, marking the years leading up to menopause. It's a subject close to my heart as I am in this stage of life right now.

Duriing this time, hormonal fluctuations can cause a variety of physical, emotional, and mental changes. Understanding peri-menopause and learning how to manage its symptoms can help women navigate this stage with confidence and ease. Let’s explore what peri-menopause entails and how to cope with its effects.

1. What is Peri-Menopause?

Peri-menopause refers to the period before menopause when the ovaries gradually produce less estrogen. This phase can last anywhere from a few months to over a decade, typically beginning in a woman’s 40s but sometimes as early as the mid-30s. Menopause officially occurs when a woman has gone 12 consecutive months without a menstrual period.

2. Common Symptoms of Peri-Menopause

The hormonal shifts of peri-menopause bring a range of symptoms that vary in intensity from person to person. Some of the most common symptoms include:

• Irregular periods: Menstrual cycles may become longer, shorter, or heavier.

• Hot flashes and night sweats: Sudden feelings of warmth, often accompanied by sweating.

• Mood swings: Increased irritability, anxiety, or even depression.

• Sleep disturbances: Difficulty falling or staying asleep.

• Weight changes: Metabolism may slow, leading to weight gain.

• Brain fog: Trouble with memory and concentration.

• Vaginal dryness: Reduced estrogen levels can lead to discomfort during intercourse.

3. Coping Strategies and Management Tips

While peri-menopause can be challenging, there are several ways to manage symptoms and maintain overall well-being:

• Adopt a Healthy Diet: Eating a balanced diet rich in fiber, healthy fats, and lean protein can support hormonal balance.

• Exercise Regularly: Physical activity helps manage weight, reduce stress, and improve mood.

• Prioritize Sleep: Establish a bedtime routine, limit caffeine, and create a comfortable sleep environment.

• Manage Stress: Practices like yoga, meditation, and deep breathing exercises can help with emotional well-being.

• Consider Supplements: Vitamins such as magnesium, vitamin D, and omega-3s may help alleviate certain symptoms.

• Speak to a Healthcare Provider: If symptoms become overwhelming, seeking medical advice can provide tailored treatment options, including hormone therapy if necessary.

4. The Emotional and Mental Impact of Peri-Menopause

Peri-menopause isn’t just a physical transition—it can also bring emotional and mental challenges. Many women experience mood swings, anxiety, and even feelings of loss or identity shifts. Open conversations with loved ones and support from friends or professionals can be beneficial in navigating this phase.

5. Embracing the Journey

While peri-menopause brings change, it also offers an opportunity for self-care and personal growth. By prioritizing health, staying informed, and seeking support, women can approach this transition with resilience and confidence. Every woman’s experience is unique, but with the right tools and mindset, peri-menopause can be a transformative and empowering stage of life.

Final Thoughts

Peri-menopause is a natural phase that comes with its ups and downs, but with awareness and proactive care, women can manage its effects and maintain a fulfilling life. By understanding the symptoms, making lifestyle adjustments, and seeking guidance when needed, this transition can be met with strength and grace. If you’re experiencing peri-menopause, remember—you are not alone, and support is always available.